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We DO Like Nice GuysPOSTED April, 17 2009  I was just reading this “post” about women not wanting to date nice guys. I say it’s B-S. In fact, I can’t stand that we’ve accepted this concept...it's of course men who say that. Women don’t want to date douchebags. We don’t want to date weirdos. We don’t want to date extremely needy guys. We don’t want to date really extreme anything guys. But that doesn’t mean we don’t like nice guys. In fact, the worst is when you start dating a guy who tries to avoid being the nice guy so he follows all the “rules”. He gets your number, waits 3 days or more to call, won’t tell you how he feels after a couple of dates, etc… What he doesn’t realize is, yeah, we might be intrigued by his ambivalence at first, but after a little while it gets annoying. He’ll become utterly predictable (because we all know the rules too guys…hello?), we won’t take him serious, and worst of all (for him especially) we’ll become whiney. That’s right. You wonder why girls start to get fussy with you—it’s because you’re acting stupid. That ever cross your mind? Then we’ll start to pull out our little tricks too, “I’m too busy this week…but, we never said we couldn’t date other people…I’m not in the mood for sex tonight.” Listen guys…being nice might have turned us off in high school, but we do eventually grow up. Why do you think we date older men? They shower us with compliments, buy us stuff, take us to fancy dinners, know not to argue with us (especially when hormonal). They’ve learned it all. Women actually like nice guys, we only say we don’t because it’s a euphemism for: -I actually don’t think he’s good looking And so on… So when a girl tells you you’re “too nice”. Take it for what it is…she’s just trying to be polite. Maybe this is our way of saying, "She's just not that into you."
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I would say all confusion can be saved with a straight up "No I won't go out with you" "No I'm not interested." Or anything similar that is direct but just don't be antagonistic, and overly hostile because that only makes a small problem of rejection larger which leads to more problems. That goes for both sides.
Also if a female says "I don't want a boyfriend right now." that's code for I don't want to date you but I'm not going to tell directly, another is "Give me some space." which really means get away from me, and "Can we just be friends" which means no I'm not going to date you.
By Anonymous
I commented because I've been on both sides of the fence; nice guy and bad boy. By FAR women are attracted to the bad boy. They don't want a puppy. I was a young and nieve guy once and man did I get beat up by women. Time passed and so did my approach. I'm not suggesting being a complete jerk but don't treat her like she walks on water.
By Anonymous
Hey listen...I agree. Men are the same way too though...def string women along. Maybe that's the lesson? We should all just be a little more honest and straight up with each other no?
By Susan_Y
Then why be a flake? If you don't like the guy, say so. Don't send mixed messages. Just say, "I'm just not that into you." It's typical red means blue crap that women feed men instead of just being HONEST. "Nice," decent, above average men are constantly led on because their too nieve and can't read through all the perfume and smoke-screens. We don't play or understand "the game." So we get mixed messages galore because you either like the attention OR don't want to hurt our feelings. Save me the time, hurt my feelings.
By Anonymous
Nice, can we go out then? I'm a nice guy. You can give me a call at 213-LUV-YOUU. Add me to your black book.
By Anonymous
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