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Sexy Siren Advice: Single in the CityPOSTED April, 21 2009  Dear Sexy Siren, I’m 29, live in NYC, and I’ve been single for 2 years now. I can’t believe it! At first I was really excited to be single in the city. I moved here about 4 years ago from a town in Texas and took a job as a personal assistant for an executive at a law firm (just so I could move out here) and haven’t actual found a new job because I’m really enjoying what I do. I had one serious relationship since I moved her that lasted for a year, but I still wanted to date around so we broke up. Now I’m really regretting it. All I meet are men who aren’t looking for anything serious and want to date models. I feel like all of the finance guys I meet are boring and really stressed out right now and all the other guys I meet are gay. I’m going crazy. Where do I meet nice guys? I thought the city would be full of them! Sincerely, Dear SA, Join the club sister. Seriously. I think all single women in the city experience this feeling at some point. I have tons of beautiful, intelligent friends living in NYC who can’t find a good guy…no matter where they go or what they do. A lot of them have joined online dating sites like match.com—some have good experiences (like have gotten married) and MANY have really bad experiences. There’s really no telling. I think it’s all about two things: TIming: I don’t mean you happened to see each other and the mood was right, the air was fresh and crisp, and you heard music in the background (though that would be a nice indicator). I think it has a lot to do with where you are both at in your life. If you have yourself figured out and feel confident in who you are, then you’re more likely to attract a man. And same goes for him…if he’s happy with his career and comfortable with his life path, then he’ll be more ready to settle down. Your friends: Most of the couples that I’ve seen work met through friends or in some roundabout way with their friends. But it depends on who your crowd is—if they all work in fashion, then chances are they only know gay men and hang out at fashion parties. Sorry. But what about hitting up some of the attorneys at the office? Is that too weird? Ask them if they have any single friends… You know, my friend Danica Lo wrote an article that’s actually perfect for you. We’re in a recession, so why not date all types of guys...whether they make a lot of money or have no job at all, right? Check out her article in the New York Post called Date Knights: http://www.nypost.com/seven/04202009/entertainment/date_knights_165315.h... Good luck!
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By Anonymous
Haha...I love that a man who is a "good catch" in NYC is usually not that good of a catch anywhere else. Nice.
By Susan_Y
Oh, those stats just made me cringe. It's TRUE! I guess the only thing you can do is be confident that you've got the magic touch...wink wink. Then other women can't compare to you. ;)
Ugh...dating in the city. I'll tell ya--I don't miss it.
By Anonymous
The odds are greatly against women in NYC. Sex and the city in reality will chew you up and spit you out. Consider the stats:
There are 4 women to every man in NYC.
For every man considered a "good catch", there are 5-20 women pursuing him, comepeting for commitment through sex.
Should you land that catch of a man, how long can you keep him when he's had a taste of "the horde" ?
By Anonymous
Can I say this somehow comforts me as an ex-NYer in LA? All my mom does is tell me I have to move back to NYC to find a good man. I think it's hard anywhere...
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