I Wouldn't Call It Platonic

My friend Carma is obsessed with one of her guy friends. In her defense, most ladies are obsessed with him—he’s good looking, charming, intelligent and just really pleasant to be around. She just doesn’t think he’s interested in her—not like that. They hang out a lot (like three times a week), email all the time, and give each other advice…but she doesn’t get the “I want to have babies with you” feeling from him (she of course, wants to).

But I think she’s wrong. I find it hard to believe that a guy would spend that much time with a girl, if he wasn’t interested in her. At least in sleeping with her.

Think of it this way—if your boyfriend spent that much time with a woman other than you (and vice versa), you would have a problem with that. Why? Because it would seem like he is interested in that person. Same goes for the single guy…if he’s spending that much time with a woman, he must be into her.

Either way, Carma is definitely not going to mention her feelings to “John.” She doesn’t want to ruin the friendship and if he is interested, she expects him to bring it up. That means every time they hang out, she’s gonna pull out her push-up bra, throw on a sexy number, and wear a lot of makeup…just so she can spend the evening laughing at horrible jokes, acting witty and intelligent, and interested in anything that he says or does.

It seems way too exhausting to me, yet, so many people live like this. No one is straight forward about their feelings until they absolutely have to be. Carma and John are either eventually going to sleep with each other…or he will get a girlfriend and Carma will secretly be pissed. She might then accept that they’re just friends or stop hanging out with him all together.

I guess they could just remain friends…and maybe even really good friends, but that’s not the usual case. I’m guessing Carma and John will end up sleeping together. I mean, with all of that sexual tension…at least coming off of Carma? It’ll go down like this: They go out and drink way too much. They start flirting with each other (they always do anyway, but this time it will be super fueled by the drinking), then for one reason or another, they’ll end up at someone’s home. The next morning they’ll wake up with Carma feeling really excited and John feeling the same way…or mortified. It’s really going to depend on her…if she’s chill about relationships, he might sleep with her a couple more times just because he can. But if she starts acting like she wants more than just a f**k buddy, then he’ll put a stop to it quickly.

Of course, if he likes her…then it will turn into a relationship. But honestly, how many times have you seen that work out? Wow, now that I’ve written this down…I’m going to go call Carma and tell her to get out now. If John hasn’t expressed his feelings, then he isn’t interested in being her boyfriend…that’s for sure. EEEK!