Facebook = Relationship Killer

I come back to the topic of Facebook and relationships A LOT. Only because it's so prevalent in our lives these days--you can find almost anything out about a person on social networking sites and see what's happening to them on a regular basis. But I think don't think that's helpful. It actually causes problems in dating.

I don't want a guy I've gone on 2 dates with to see what I'm doing every day and see who is writing on my wall. I don't like that the guy I'm involved with wants to know which of my "friends" I've slept with. I don't like guessing what's happening with my guy and the girl who just posted a picture on his wall. And I don't think it's healthy that guys who were "interested" in me (or vice versa) can catch up with me whenever they want to (except when I'm single. Ha!). Being that accessible just complicates things. I mean, in the end, we're only human right? Having options makes being bad way too easy.

For instance, my friend Dillon just told me that she signed on to Facebook and forgot to turn off the chat feature. Almost immediately, a guy from high school sent her a message. They caught up for a bit--he told her he's a cop, married, and his baby daughter is the joy of his life. She told him she's a school teacher and just got a dog. Then he said, "You know, I was in love with you in high school, but you were always too good."

What was she supposed to respond with? "I never actually paid attention to you in high school" or "Really? We should hook up now!"

Dillon obviously thought it was a weird conversation to get into so she abruptly ended the conversation. There was no need to go any further with it, especially because he had a wife and daughter.

And that's not the end of it. These days, you don't even have to google a person before your first date to learn about them. You're usually already "friends" on Facebook and can see their pictures from past trips and events, the kind of people they associate with, what line of work they're in, how old they are, their favorite books, and 25 random facts about them...

Even when you first meet a person, you don't have to guess if they are single or not, just check out their relationship status. What's that say? I highly recommend not getting involved with people who even bother using the "It's Complicated" relationship status. Why share that information? 

The only thing I guess that's helpful about Facebook and relationships is that it's hard to hide bad things and lie? 

I don't know...what are your thoughts on it?