Don't Pass Him By

Guys—have you ever seen a lovely lady walk by and thought, “I should say something”, but you didn’t? And ladies—how about that sexy man who caught your eye, but never made a move…wish maybe YOU would have said something?

Well, the other night, my friend Beth passed by “the hottest man ever” when she was in the subway. From her description, he was a God--tall, dark, handsome, wind blowing through his hair, and he was wearing a nice suit. The guy was everything she was looking for and apparently, she caught his eye too. They both looked back at each other, smiled, and then…kept walking.

So now Beth keeps wondering if she should have made a move. What if he was her soul mate or at the very least, the best lover of her life? On the other hand, he could have been a serial killer or had the smallest, you know…machinery, in the world. Either way, she will never know and she hates that she missed the opportunity.

But I’m not so sure she should dwell on it. I think the guy should always make the first move and her glance back at him should have been the cue that she was interested, right?

Turns out, I’m WAY wrong. I just happen to think like most women…which is WRONG!
I went to my trusty circle of guy friends to get an answer on this question and they shared a little saying with me, “I see my wife ten times a day.”

In other words, men see hot girls all day long and would LOVE to ask most of them out, but assume that they won’t be interested or even worse, that randomly stopping ladies will come off as cheesy or even creep them out. So they don’t do it unless it’s VERY obvious that the girl is interested. 

At the same time, I did explain to the boys that I’m not the type of girl to make the first move, so what do women like me do? They say to look at the guy, smile, and maybe even throw in a cute little wave or some kind of signal that blatantly says, “Hi, I’m available and interested in you. So come over here you big stud.”

Of course, ladies…we are big girls now. I suppose there’s nothing wrong with being bold and taking matters into your own hands. Why not just walk up to a man and introduce yourself? After all, the only thing you have to lose is…well, a date.

So lets say it together—NO MORE MISSED OPPORTUNITIES!! Ladies…it’s time to be a little more available.